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Just another manic Monday

It’s been a long time.

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It is the last day of August, where did summer vacation go? In June, it seemed like we were enjoying our time as a family of 5 and patiently waiting for our first placement. In July, we spent our time getting to know our first placement and getting on a new routine/schedule. Having two small ones in the house sure does change things. August has been filled with trying to catch-up from July, get into the mindframe that school starts again and that we are back to the hustle and bustle of the rat race called keeping busy…

Anyways, I’m not one for much conversation so I will just post pictures to kind of catch you up 🙂

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These are DSLR camera pics vs my iPhone pics that I’ve been posting like crazy 🙂

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These are DSLR camera pics vs my iPhone pics that I’ve been posting like crazy 🙂

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sleepovers

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Photobombs!

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Miss Marie learning how to take selfie’s

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last day of school cuteness

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The above pictures are from Concerts on the Square

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Mya learning how to use a camera

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Face/arm painting with friends!

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The above pictures are from our trip to the Dell Diamond

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Fourth of July Pictures, party at our place 🙂

There are tons more pictures, but since a ton of them have the newest members of our household in them I can’t post them online. I will post more pictures of other things we have done, though it has been a “short” summer it has been amazing and fun.

Love y’all, Iiona

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Describe your Relationship with your Spouse…

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So I am definitely going back and redoing this post, I’m just super lazy and thought this was good for the time being. There is more that I want to say, I just can’t right now. Not that I can’t say it, but more along the lines of me just wanting to get it posted… Is that lazy… maybe, maybe not! More along the lines of me saying… WHOOT, WHOOT I got another post done! #POW

Here is that trusty list again and the fun graphics to go along with it!

Relationships can be so tricky, relating with other people is not an easy feat. It is something that one has to work on daily. Marriage is work, it isn’t something that is all magical and just happens forever. It takes time, focus, dedication and persistence to get where we are now. As you all know our relationship hasn’t been all peaches and cream, but it is working and it is what it is.

I look at the relationship that you guys have with your dad and at times I wonder if I had been given the chance to have that type of relationship with my own father if I would have been different. I’m sure, but what if’s don’t help anyone so I will move on from that. I am so happy that you guys have that type of relationship and I hope you understand where that comes from.

I love your dad because he loves you guys so much, does that sound funny? There are many other reasons why I love him, but seeing him with you guys makes me love him even more. I love him because when he looks at me it’s like I’m the only one in the room. I love him because he is willing to get matching tattoo’s with me and let me pick them out. I love him because he loves motorcycles more than I do. I love him because our names are similar; IAV and IAL. I love him because he helps me feel complete. He is a part of a circle and that circle is complete because he is in it. The other parts of that circle are you guys, my sister and niece, the awesome Godparents you guys have (whom I’ve known since I was 9 years old), and for knowing that God loves me even when I don’t love myself. I can go on and on, but I will spare you all of the sappy reasons why I love him.

I do want you to know that our relationship hasn’t always been great, it took time, healing and God to get our relationship to where it is now. We both came into the relationship with past hurts and learning to forgive people from our past. We knew we wanted to be together and so that was what kept us going. I’m not saying divorce was never in our conversations, just saying that we had to pray and take things one day at a time. What brought us together was our similarities.  What is keeping us together is Christ and our love for each other and our love for you guys, and making sure that your life is in no way similar to our pasts. Because when you know better and learn better, you strive to be better and do better.

Anywho, your father and I have a lot of things in common, but we also have things that neither one of us really care for. But to be honest that is what makes our relationship stronger. If we were the same all the way, it would be boring. Some of the things we have that are similar are;

  1. We like getting tattoos
  2. We love riding motorcycles
  3. We love music
  4. We love our family (the one we made, not the one we came from)
  5. We are both loyal
  6. We both are very forgiving
  7. Our initials are similar except our last names… IAL and IAV
  8. We both heart the Packers and the Badgers
  9. We enjoy spending time with our children
  10. We both enjoy cooking and baking, him more cooking and me more baking

Anyways, I hope this gives you more of a look into the relationship I have with your father. I mean I can’t really go into super detail. But know that we are in it for the long haul and we are going to do all we can to stay together until we die.

The List:

THE LIST:

1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears (graphic version)
3. Describe your relationship with your spouse.
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
6. If you could have three wishes, what would you wish for?
7. What is your dream job, and why?
8. What are 5 passions you have?
9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
13. What’s the hardest part of growing up?
14. Describe 5 and weaknesses strengths you have.
15. Describe when you knew your spouse was the one or how I fell in love.
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
18. What do you think your spouse loves most about you?
19. How did you feel the moment you became a parent?
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
21. Describe your relationship with your parents.
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
23. What’s your favorite holiday and why?
24. What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about parenthood?
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
28. What’s your favorite quality in your spouse?
29. What are your hopes and dreams for your prosperity?
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.

 

3 Legitimate Fears

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Here I am again with my trusty list and the answer to the next prompt… WHOO, I am so proud of myself for actually posting the next post. I know that sounds funny, but every since school ended I have been on my computer less and less and on my iPhone more and more. Haha..

Without further ado, here is MY 3 Legitimate Fears…

I am afraid of spiders, bees and snakes, I’m not saying that I can’t kill either one if they appeared in my line of sight or in my way. Just means that when one pops up I get super freaked out and go all Ninja on them, and I can just feel the goose bumps popping up all over my body and then I worry that they have infested the area they were last seen. I’m pretty sure my unusual fear stems from watching the movies Arachnophobia and Anaconda.


I am legitimately afraid of not fulfilling goals I have set for myself. I’ve spent so many of my younger years feeling that I was a failure. I would attempt to do something or try to accomplish something and when it wouldn’t work out for me I would get so sad, upset and depressed. I’m learning how to handle pushing my goals back a little or making them more realistic or breaking the goal up into smaller steps. When I thought I wasn’t going to be able to graduate and get my Bachelor’s Degree, I got so upset and frustrated. I had to take a moment and reevaluate the situation. Once I was able to be happy in the process and moment I was in I could appreciate taking a shorter route or even a different route was in the best interest of everyone involved. Including myself and my sanity.

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My Big Sister Jen and I at my Graduation Party she hosted at her place in Oshkosh, WI

I am afraid of raising my kiddos like I was raised. Before I had my first child, D-boy, I was so worried about having children and being like my biological mother. Being hateful, without a spouse, being a single parent, being angry, being physically or emotionally abusive to my children, blaming my children for my unhappiness, etc, etc. I was just plain afraid of becoming a parent. I have to say that it wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be, there are some things that I would have done differently. But not too much and not enough to make a huge difference in the grand scheme of things. But I am learning and becoming a better parent, and once I learn to be better I am better.

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My 3 wonderful kiddos: Mini Mouse, D-boy and Miss Marie

 

THE LIST:

1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears (graphic version)
3. Describe your relationship with your spouse.
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
6. If you could have three wishes, what would you wish for?
7. What is your dream job, and why?
8. What are 5 passions you have?
9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
13. What’s the hardest part of growing up?
14. Describe 5 and weaknesses strengths you have.
15. Describe when you knew your spouse was the one or how I fell in love.
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
18. What do you think your spouse loves most about you?
19. How did you feel the moment you became a parent?
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
21. Describe your relationship with your parents.
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
23. What’s your favorite holiday and why?
24. What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about parenthood?
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
28. What’s your favorite quality in your spouse?
29. What are your hopes and dreams for your prosperity?
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.

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Fun things I want my kids to know about me…

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So, I know I have a ton of things I am supposed to finish up and keep going. And to be honest I have been doing majority of them, just not on the blog. I don’t know what it is, but for some reason I can’t get myself to sit in front of my computer and type up a post or just post a picture or two. I’m really hoping that I can be better at this and post at least 2-3 times a week.

Anyways, here is another fun thing I plan on doing for this month. It might not be the whole month, because I have taken an initiative and done at least 3 posts already. Whoot! Whoot!

So I have been following Jenn over at Baby Making Machine for at least two years if not longer. She is awesome and she is inspiring, and this is where I am taking my newest posts from. She and a few others are doing 30-31 posts called 30 things my kids should know about me. Here is the List of questions or prompts, I’ve read majority of them and as it goes along I could potentially change some or switch up the questions. The other thing I am doing right away is just posting. No fun graphics, no fun photos (ok maybe a few) but I will come back later and revamp the questions and answers up to be able to make them into a book. Thanks to Erica (who knows Jenn) there are graphic prompts that you can download and use for free… SWEET!!!!! Or you can download the printables here for free. Anyways, here you go enjoy my first post…

List 20 Random Facts About You

  1. I dislike chocolate but love a good red vine
  2. I heart buttered pecan ice cream, but don’t eat it as much because of my girls food allergies
  3. I love watching scary movies, but attached to that. I also see movie scenes in through out the day
  4. The truth hurts but I would prefer that over a lie any day
  5. I consider myself to be tall and have always wanted to be a gymnast or a ballerina
  6. I love horses, but I’m also afraid of horses
  7. Stopping to smell the roses is my ultimate goal in life, which means slowing down and enjoying life and the little things
  8. I don’t need expensive things for a gift, but I do expect some type of acknowledgement on my birthday.
  9. My sister is my best friend, but she can also be super annoying
  10. I love my niece, Baby K, as if she were my own child
  11. I worry about raising confident and respectful children
  12. I strive to be a role model, sometimes I slip but you learn in the mistakes
  13. I never wanted to be known as D-boys mom, Mini Mouse’s mom or Miss Marie’s mom. I have a name too
  14. I love being a mommy, but sometimes I don’t like it
  15. I would do anything to protect my children, husband, niece and sister. Messing with them is like messing with me
  16. I used to be a violent and angry person
  17. I love God, but I also question God
  18. I’m not afraid to ask the tough questions or have the tough conversations. But if I don’t have to have them, I’m cool with that too
  19. I’m so proud of my kiddos and so happy that I am their mom
  20. I love myself, and I think I’m pretty sexy/hot/cute

THE LIST:

1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears (graphic version)
3. Describe your relationship with your spouse.
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
6. If you could have three wishes, what would you wish for?
7. What is your dream job, and why?
8. What are 5 passions you have?
9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
13. What’s the hardest part of growing up?
14. Describe 5 and weaknesses strengths you have.
15. Describe when you knew your spouse was the one or how I fell in love.
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
18. What do you think your spouse loves most about you?
19. How did you feel the moment you became a parent?
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
21. Describe your relationship with your parents.
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
23. What’s your favorite holiday and why?
24. What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about parenthood?
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
28. What’s your favorite quality in your spouse?
29. What are your hopes and dreams for your prosperity?
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.

So, did I mention that I will come back later and pretty all of this up? Yeah I will, when i get a big burst of energy. Until then enjoy 🙂

Food, Food Allergies, Shopping…

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So, I’ve been going back and forth on what my blog is going to contain. Mainly things about me, things about our family, just random things. Whatever the case I am still not sure where it is going. What I do know is between now and when I finally figure it out I am going to have fun posting whatever…

So my first whatever post is about our process of shopping for food and other things that are allergy friendly. As some might know we have two kiddos that are food allergic. Miss Marie is allergic to all things dairy, eggs and peanuts/treenuts. She has a few other food allergies but those aren’t as life threatening as the 3 above. Mini Mouse is allergic to eggs and peanuts/treenuts. Each girl has a different severity of allergy to their food allergens, does that make any sense?

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Now let me clarify some things for you. I have read some food allergy websites and follow quite a few. We try to attend the Food Allergy Awareness walks and participate in anything food allergy, but… I’m not like most of the other mothers and families dealing with food allergies. I have not changed the whole families diet to fit in the allergies, that our girls have, that might sound bad or mean. But lets be honest here, I’m selfish… What I can say is we are a nut free home, meaning we don’t have any nuts of any kind in our house… (yeah, get your head out of the gutter)!

I’ve tried going dairy free in our house, but the kiddos bucked that, they pretty much said we won’t drink anything if you keep offering us soy or rice milk. So I listened and we are extremely careful. Doesn’t mean things can’t happen, just means we are aware all the time. Mini Mouse is her sister’s keeper, she will let you know if she can have something or not. I love that about them! Anyways, when we do go shopping and we find something that we can use in our house AND the kiddos like it… we stock up on it big time.

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Take for instance lotions, Miss Marie has always had very sensitive skin. So she has never been able to use the baby lotions and smell goods, you know the stuff that just says, “I’m a baby and I smell delicious!” Yeah not Miss Marie, she has never had that new baby smell. Haha! That actually sounds funny. From an infant on Miss Marie has had severe ezcema, to the point where she was on antibiotics for months on end with open sores on her body and trying to find creative ways to keep socks on her hands so that she couldn’t scratch her skin off. We spent a good portion of our time in the first two years of her life in the doctor’s office a everyday in the beginning and then at least 2-3 times a week as she got older.

Anyways, sometimes we are really lame and refuse to go grocery shopping or household shopping until we have used almost everything in the house, forces you to use what you have and not be wasteful. So when we finally needed to go shopping we spent way more than we thought we should have (I’ll keep the price tag to myself) but we got everything we needed plus more.

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It’s kind of crazy how we buy so much of the same thing, but it really does save us time and money sometimes, especially when the manufacturer decides to change the ingredients of the food, lotion, snack, etc.

Believe me, we’ve had that issue before and didn’t appreciate it either. Now we have a freezer with tons of butter, a kitchen cupboard with lots of chicken broth and cakes and a bathroom cabinet with lots of lotions and soaps that are Miss Marie friendly. I don’t think any of this helps now that we are trying the more natural route either. Meaning, we are trying to be health conscious and aware of what we put into, on and around our bodies. I’m thinking Whole Paycheck is liking us right about now. Mainly because they are they only place I’ve found where I can find allergen friendly deodorants and face cleansers for the girls to use. I bet no one has ever thought of that, yeah we do…

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There are times when I do, just for a second or two, wish that Miss Marie had been born without food allergies, severe eczema, and being deaf. But then where would we be if she hadn’t been born that way. These experiences have enriched all of our lives considerably and as tiring and upsetting as it can be, how rewarding and uplifting it is too. Our children are learning from the inside out how to be mindful, thoughtful, protective, and just so many other things because of the experiences we have to deal with. We have been opened up to two completely different worlds. We are still learning how to navigate each new world, because it is sooo different than what we are used to. The Deaf culture and world, amazing, beautiful, and so many other things. I just wish we were able to see more children like Miss Marie in that world. I know they are out there. When I say more like Miss Marie, I mean more black children, when we go to events we are typically THE black family… The same with the food allergy world, we or I am typicall the black face in a sea of white. Maybe that is something I will help change soon, but for now. I will stick with what we have and navigate through it.

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Anyways, this post wasn’t supposed to be all about food allergies and Miss Marie, guess that’s where my heart lead me.

Anyways, some might wonder. If Miss Marie can’t have cow’s milk and we are trying not to offer soy milk as a substitute (which she refuses to drink) and she balks at rice milk. What type of milk DOES she drink… Well my dear friends she still drinks a hypoallergenic formula. Yeah I know she is 5 going on 6 and still drinks a formula. This is not your average formula, it is a specially formulated formula specifically for children with cow’s milk allergies and various other allergies. If she so decides (and she has on more than one occasion) to stop eating foods, she can survive off of this formula and still get all the nutrients, vitamins and minerals she needs. Lucky us huh?! Yeah, not so much because something like that comes with a hefty price tag, again something I will keep to myself. Her formula is Neocate Junior, the tropical flavor. Not chocolate or regular flavor but tropical flavor and she will not drink or even touch the other flavors. That would be her asserting her authority over that situation. Doesn’t bother us any, as long as she is getting some type of milk or drink. This company also makes juices, but again… Miss Marie has asserted her authority over that and absolutely refused to drink it. Found that out after we shelled out $100 bucks to give it a “try”.

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Well it’s not always bad or expensive or annoying. There are just times I just need to vent and complain about my girls with food allergies. I think the most dreaded thing we ever get is a birthday invitation to Chuck-E-Cheese… Especially for Miss Marie. Mini Mouse is “simple” but Chuck-E-Cheese is like a death trap for Miss Marie. If we do decide to take her to the party that is at the death trap, I’m the hover parent with the camera. I really use the camera as a disguise for being a hover parent… There I’ve said it! I hover, but I have every right to do that. But it still doesn’t make me feel any less of a loser. I’ve never wanted to be THAT parent, you know the annoying one… Well, hope you are having a great night.

Love ya, I