Seconds turn into minutes turn into hours and time continues on… tonight it continues on as I lay awake trying to figure out what is holding me hostage.
My body is gripped with tension and anxiety and uncertainty.
I’m unwillingly being dragged along in the wave of emotions that keep crashing against the shell of my mind.
I’m not sure if I should cry, scream, laugh, throw up or just be. I’m feeling like I should do all of them at the same exact moment. And then once I’ve done that do it again but this time faster and full of gusto.
My body is ignited with energy, but my brain is sluggish with exhaustion. Who will win this battle tonight?
If I allow all of it, what happens once I reach the shore? Will I find myself standing on the beach front looking out into a vast sea of nothing and no one? Will I find myself smack in the middle of a party full of people and not seen nor heard?
It’s the unknown, my inability to control what is going to happen next. I want to be able to have a plan in place for the next steps, I’m a planner. I can’t plan how to handle a complete melt down if I don’t see it coming. I need to have a list of what each step looks like…
1. Find a counselor and talk
2. Cry on cue
3. Laugh to avoid the hurt
4. Remove touch
5. Skim the surface of that issue
6. Avoid the conversation by not answering the question
7. Push the easy button
8. Panic and fall apart
9. Stare at yourself in the mirror confused
10. Ask how did you end up HERE
11. Realize boxes are falling all around you
12. Sleep becomes elusive
13. Never ask for help
14. You’ve done it… You’re cured!
15. Realize that you’ve screwed yourself
16. Commence to freak out AGAIN
I’m standing here… trying to ask for help but not sure where to go to get it. I know that sounds so incredibly crazy, I have a therapist. But… what do I say to her? What questions do I ask? What prescribed list of answers do I give her to the questions she asks? How do I navigate this minefield of boxes and bombs that threaten to go off at any turn. I feel so lost, tired, exhausted, unsure and uncertain.
I feel so incredibly vulnerable and it is giving me panic attacks. I called, because the number is there. And had to leave a message…
“Hi, this is Iiona…I don’t even know why I called, but I did. Feel free to call me back if you have a moment. Bye…”
I hung up the phone and instantly regretted the need to have to call someone. And then I regretted placing the phone call and actually leaving the message. And then I regretted remembering all of the times I needed help or an ear to bend and I had no one there but myself and how it felt like I was in a room full of 1000 people and I was all alone. And then I regretted the thought that I even needed anyone to make it through, because… I’m 36 and I’ve survived this long alone. What’s another couple of minutes.
The feelings will pass, the anxiety will subside, I will remember LOVE and life will be easy for a little…. Until the next box falls off of the shelf and I’m trying to figure out how to navigate all of the things that fell out of that box.
Seconds turn into minutes turn into hours and time continues on… tonight it continues on as I lay awake trying to figure out what is holding me hostage.
Goodnight!